My Dad has kidney disease, and was told in 1969 that he wouldn't live another 10-12 years...he was 18 then. He will be 60 in February. A few months ago, his kidney doctor apparently told him his kidneys would fail within the next 2-3 years. If that does happen (and isn't another fluke like it was before), the best 2 options are myself or my brother donating (the only 2 children, and all of his siblings are too old or deceased).

My Mom just told me about this (I knew about the kidney disease, but not about the most recent news...he didn't even tell her until almost a month after seeing the doctor).

I think for me to be eligible, I would have to lose a fair amount of weight (50lbs at least, I could lose more), and my brother might have to do the same (although only 20lbs or so)...but he also has 2 kids and a wife, and he's 6 years older than me...so in the end, I'm the best candidate any way you look at it (which is why she told me first I think).

I was just reading a Q & A about kidney donors and one thing that popped up was insurance...That's a big deal for me. I already have epilepsy, and donating a kidney means seeing kidney doctors for most of my life as well, on top of the neurologists I'll see.

So just wondering if anyone here has any experience.


and there is no way my Dad will ever ask me to do it, it will have to be me or my brother that comes forward. I get that from him, we'd rather be lost and find our own way back and take twice as long than to ask for help and be home in half the time. He doesn't know that I know, and I plan to keep it that way until we get a definite answer from the doctor.

 

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All joking aside it is very generous to donate to a loved one, they have experts doing this, it is very simple these days.

 

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for my children or a sibling I would do it in a heart beat.

anybody else you better cough up some cash if you want me to give you one of my organs.

I am on the DoD's bone marrow transplant list, I just hope they never call or send me a letter.

 

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i only have one kidney and im sure in the next 20 years this one might fail. hope your dad makes it through this ok

 

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My mother has donated a kidney before at the Mayo Clinic here in MN.

 

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There is no way in hell I would give either of my parents a kidney.

 

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If you have epilepsy, I think that would make your brother the better candidate.

I haven't donated anything other than blood, and I can't even do that now. They won't take any of my organs when I die even though I'm an organ donor. The risk that there could still be lymphoma floating around in me is too great.

 

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i don't think your epilepsy would rule you out. unless some of your drugs have injured your kidney. i assume that he has nephritis secondary to strep, but i would check that it isnt an inherited dz of some sort. that might mean more testing before you could donate. as to the 'nephrologist the rest of your life', it will be just a routine blood test every 6mth to a year depending. not a big deal, and the same tests you get from your neurologist. once you have a working relationship with your nephrologist, i bet your neurologist can handle it and call the nephrologist with any thing out of the ordinary.

donate, you wont regret it. and you will regret it forever the day after (if) your dad dies from his kidney dz.

my 2p.

 

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sell it to your father for $50,000


pay up or die, choice is his

 

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I have an organ ill donate to you...

 

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